Sunday, 7 September 2008

Aghhhhhhh

SHE'S DONE IT AGAIN!!!

She's checked my messages...that woman!!!

Why can i not leave my phone lying around without worrying i'll soon be answering questions?

There was nothing there really...just a bit of flirting with a friend!

Well, she saw these messages last night... well, maybe i was sloppy for leaving the messages on my phone, but there was standard agreements not to snoop at each other's private stuff... how silly of me!

Well, she's been a friend for a long time, and she happened to hanging out in the neighbourhood... of course, she's great company and we flirt, just regular lines...nothing extreme...just for the trips of who's going last the longest..nothing else...plain fun

She did send a couple of messages late at night..daring me to get into trouble...of course i replied..i was on lock down..

I cycle almost every evening and i did mention that i could cycle by her place one of the evenings...of course, that got me in trouble having to defend that everytime i went cycling, i was indeed cycling....lol...women

I tire for all these hell-raising men!! For real...a bit of flirting isnt cheating is it?...i know it's wrong, but i didnt do nothing...nothing!!!

Dont know what to say right now, but i'm seriously considering my options...I HATE DRAMA!!!

Shit happens men..i fuck up..i face the shit...

PS: Introducing my friend... tigeress

41 comments:

The Paradigm said...

Oh wow. Ok yeah I kinda agree, that flirting isn't cheating, but u don't want her drawing conclusions, so if u know u gonna flirt n no actions, DELET the messages!!! As soon as u read.... Good luck, hope its drama free!!!

Funms said...

hmmm. true flirting is not technically cheating but to us women, we tend to think it may lead to something else. i guess uve to think like her and be rational about it.. explain gently is not exactly what it looks like (cliche i know!). question is why were u flirting?

funkola said...

u hate drama????? then don't bring it to d table.
@ funms, thank u o, question is why was he flirting??

Anonymous said...

Yeh, why were u flirting? and why this person in particular?

Tigeress said...

What u doing flirting with a next babe? And if flirting with her was so unresistable- then surely you should have covered ur tracks! If u want to sniff around- u need to learn to cover ur tracks!

But question is- why were you flirting?

Chari said...

LMAO!!!

women and checking ur msgs...hmmn! o well u sef! u know that sth like that can cause fight naa...

Chari said...

dude update ur link to me abeg

Enigma said...

Well, to everyone, only Paradigm saw the full blog when i put it up..why and ish..

I had to edit it cos the said person came across my blog last night so i quickly edited it..well she's given me a full go-ahead to write the full story..so lookout for the update..

I flirt cos i LIKE to...*rubbing palms together*

badderchic said...

OKAY GUYS!

this is me going into defensive mode.

first at my Twins brother, dont you know the 11th commandment? never ever get caught. sloppy man sloppy.

then since when did we get judgmental? its blogsville hellooo! we family, we support no matter what, so what the guy flirted why the hell are we asking him why he flirted?

finally, I believe Ignoorance is bliss, what you dont know WILL NOT kill you, serously to us sisters, why the hell do we snoop on our mens phones? how would WE like it if he was reading our messages, going through our emails, underwear drawers, bags?

there is something you can never give up as a person no matter what and thats your privacy.
Im not gonna act holy and say I never dunnit, but the only time I did snoop, it was the end of soming I could have worked at and I killed it by reading his messages.

me? I think Its wrong.

Brother you were wrong too o! you shouldnt have been caught.

Tigeress said...

well since u've made it a habbit to flirt around- then u need to be on point- no reason for sloppiness.

Enigma said...

thanks twin...

Enigma said...

Yes tiger!

Invisible said...

I suppose come knock you for head.
Read and delete bro and you sef, single your eyes joo.

archiwiz said...

LOL...Why you dey complain? Na u do, and na u dey complain. If you no want drama, no follow am then. :)

LOL...

Lady Koko said...

SHIIIIIIIIII!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BUHAHAHAHH!!!!!!!!!!!! BUHAHAHAHHA!!!!!!!!LOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!1LOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!

Lady Koko said...

AHHHH BADDERCHIC HAS SPOKEN WELL OO..me i let my man knu from day 1...I FLIRT OOO..BECOS HEY..EVERYONE LIKES THE REASSURANCE THAT WE STILL GAT IT GOING ON!!!!!!!! THAT IS REALLY JUST ME..i flirt with girls sef...GREY AND OLD MEN..FREE ME OOOO(there r diff levels of flriting..I BELIEVE THERE IS ACCEPTABLE FLRITING)......lololololo.....FLIRTING FOR MANY HAS BECOME A WAY OF LIFE.....HARMLESS FUN..altho me if am in a relationship i'd rather not flirt with texts tho...betta in person...AND OF COURSE.....FLIRTING MEANS NO CONTACT ALLOWED!!!!!
P.S:XOXO

Lady Koko said...

BUT LET ME BE HONEST OOOOO.IF U WERE MY MAN.....and i saw some flirty text......HMMMMMMMMMM.......am a jealous lover.....I AINT ASHMED TO ADMIT IT!
P.S:XOXO

Buttercup said...

it seems like trouble just loves u..

i guess now u know what to do..

stay outta trouble!!!!

NaijaBabe said...

Lol...this is rather funny

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

Totally agree flirting is 'healthy'. My definition of cheating is some guy sticking his jingly bits into my womanly bits, end of.
anything else is categorised as harmless flirting lol

Afrobabe said...

lmao....flirting is cheating provided it hurts the other party...

yep, every time u go cycling we will wonder who you are cycling!!!

ibiluv said...

pele
i guess she has some right to snoop

but then again
its aiight if she asks questions
(i think)

sometymes we(women) only ask questions cos we wanna see how you(men) respond

a simple
oh just me and a pal playing pranks
or do u wanna talk to her
would suffice for me
but then again-i aiint most women

i dont want u snooping on mi fone so i wont touch urs

cos i know if i was married pregnant and ugly-it wont stop men finding ME attractive

Standtall said...

I just dont get it. If a man flirts with me and I give him my no. I tell hubby abt it and when he bothers me we laugh it off.

He tells me if any woman his flirting with him too and I dont see it as a big deal since he keeps no secret from me. And I dont either.

Do you keep secret from her? Do you trust each other? There must be away around this

bumtight said...

It takes a lot for a girl not to snoop on ur phone,especially if she's found stuff in the past.
I dont know how you're going to dig yourself out of the hole, but if its harmless flirting, u can tell it to her? or let her know there's nothing to be worried about.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

wait you are flirting, but yet you don't like wahala? Um, well, in that case, I don't know what to tell you especially as your babe no dey gree dat kain thing.

Anyway, all the best to you!!

-(

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

um, that was supposed to be a =)

=)

Red Sapphire said...

Uhmm..now u don't like dramma ehn..who says there's no harm flirting..shhhishh..i am woman kai and i will support your chic..we can only assume there isnt anyhting serious yet but on the longterm..u and ur flirt partner are brewing stuff..ur girl doesn't v to wait till things get out of hand before she speaks....
p.s...i dont support message checking..too complicating...but for heaven's sake stop it if u v any iota of feelings for her.
By d way...switch roles nd see how it feels...
and yes tigeress' got good stuff...

Tigeress said...

@ Red Sapphire- i SURE do have good stuff. lol!

As for whether this is classified as cheating or not.....Enigma can only answer that. Q1.were you just texting for the fun of it without having any intensions of taking it further? Q2.Or is this next babe a girl u fancied and if u had the opportunity to get up to no good- wld u have done so?

If your answer is yes to Q1, then my fellow bloggers- it is not cheating. If its a yes to Q2, then darling it is considered cheating!! STAY AWAY and stop the texing!!!

Red Sapphire said...

ehn enigma..why i the world did u think he's not that into me.....pls that's gotten me seriously curious right bout now....

AlooFar said...

So you don't like wahala... and u're looking for trouble.

RE: and thanks for the love. I'll soon be done with the time-out ;)

nigeriandramaqueen said...

Gosh I just typed a long ass comment and stupid blogger messed up. Arghhhhhhh let me start again:

Yes shit happens! Seems to be the universal truth of the day. Im a big flirt and tease myself-and there is such a thing as harmless flirting. It ceases to be flirting and starts to become cheating when we do anything that we would not want the other person in the relationship to do, and when the other person gets hurt.

So a question you should ask yourself is this: would you mind if she sent similar texts to a guy and you didn't know about it?

If you honestly can say you would not mind, then tell her it was all fun and games, and you would not mind if she did the same.

If you know you would be upset given that hats were switched, then just do the thing we women love: beg, apologize, send flowers...you know the do:-)

I guess you really do need to sit down and take stock of your options. Is this relationship worth it to you? If it is, be ready to give up doing things she doesnt like...it's give and take. But if you feel like it isn't-dust your boots and get to stepping, so that no one's time is wasted.

Please know however, that a woman without drama is a non-existent specie! And when a woman says she wont snoop-most of the time she is lieing!

Kpele oh! Hope all works out love!
xxx

Sabira said...

innocent flirting can always lead to something else. We always think we are not going to do something wrong to our partner until it actually happens. as for the snooping, i have learned, if you go looking for something, you will def find it...sha take care of ur business, lol

~Sirius~ said...

You definitely LOVE drama, if not you wouldn't be leaving your scripts lying around to be played out............... You guys never learn, you will get caught 99% of the time even if it's not a big deal to you, it will be a big deal to her.

Red Sapphire said...

I guess the cat is outta the bag already.i was slow in letting u know u've gotten an award..ba!..
anyways i really like it hear and u are most deserving of the award for your honesty and openness.

Esmeralda said...

u like to flirt?

no problemo.

but when u are in a serious relationship as i've read that u are, do yourself a favour and cover up your flirting tracks! show a li'l R-E-S-P-E-C-T dude.

theicequeen said...

dum dum dum (yep, that same cliche tune that plays in EVERY single movie when someone lands in gbese :P) LOL..hmm, thing is, flirting quite often gets out of hand and no matter how much you know it's innocent, the chic cannot be sure of that cuz she isn't in your head!

oya, next time delete the text's fast fast o! (yes, e be like say i like trouble :P)

NaijaBabe said...

wow...i see someone's face!!!!!

Aijay said...

lol @ Afrobabe's comment. True talk!!
Enigma, if u don't like wahala, u know what to do.

badderchic said...

na wa o! all the women here have crucified you ehn? you dey find solace na punishment dem give you lol.

I still stand by my view. you shouldnt cheat, Im a big ass flirt so dont understand the no flirt thingy but I do know you shouldnt be caught...oya that much said already GO UPDATE JO!

Afronuts said...

Feel you bro. Been guilty of such too.

Flirting may sound like fun but its good to have this at the back of yo mind --

'whenever you give the devil a ride, he'll eventually want to drive'

bArOquE said...

...what the hell was she checking your phone for? i cant be with a woman that makes me guard my phone, although i never leave tracks behind me...flirting is so cool especially when you know you're gonna get some sugar, sooner or later, if not dont waste your time, there's no such thing as innocent texting